Peace Out, 2008!

What follows below is an account of 2008. But first, we must get there. Bear with me.

I don't know what it is exactly about trains, but there is nothing like a train journey to send me into thought. Maybe it's the ability to sit facing backwards on trains, allowing you the most literal experience of looking back at the paths you've taken. It's almost as if you are caught in time and space, held in stasis while speeding towards and away from past and future. Perhaps that's why most travellers feel sick at the thought of travelling backwards--the metaphorical aspect dizzies and overwhelms. Not me. I prefer to see from whence I've come and this is probably pretty telling about my character, but I think it's easier to take in the landscape when looking back. Looking forward the landscape comes upon you too fast and does not allow for any kind of cognition, re- or otherwise. Or maybe it's growing up with my sister, who has always referred to travel time as 'quiet reflective time'. Such an effective kibosh on chit-chat put me in the habit of carrying a notebook and something to read, in addition to developing my ability to kip off almost anywhere.

In any case, I was on a train. It was early evening New Year's Eve and hubbs and I were travelling back from a dark and icy Paris. Dark and icy Paris, I've come to realise, is a stunning postcard. The third dimension loses something of its charm. It's hard to appreciate the fantastic time you may be having if every other thought is: COLD.

But, home. We were on our way home. On this train journey, we had the very best of Paris accompanying us: Camembert, jambon, a baguette and Bordeaux. And central heating. Heaven. This, with the train and the date, led to a retrospective look back on the year that was 2008.

I present you with what we will carry on from 2008:

• Woke sick and battered on New Year's Day, watched Bedknobs and Broomsticks and vowed not again.
• Like Samson and Austin Powers, I realised exactly where my mojo resides and realised too late.
• The Clouse House welcomed the first, little T the Tall.
• Frank the Goldfish came to us and left us mourning.
• Circumstances conclusively proved that yes, all's fair in love and war. Realised that disillusionment can be the coming of all ages.
• Were mistaken for Greeks, independently of each other: taciturn and scruffy for hubbs and brown, brown, brown for me.
• Founded the year of Hot and Sour Soup and Thai Salad.
• Turned 29. No comment.
• Finally became a cabin boy.
• The Academy's Sweetheart got married and reunited, it was very good.
• Mingled among the Welsh and the Walshes. Got lost on the Welsh coastline. Discovered a level of hell: the family-themed holiday resort.
• Camped in a tent, on an air mattress in late September, in Southeast England. Translation: burr. And we're not talking Aaron Burr.
• Both became Seniors at what we do, proving that we do it best (apparently).
• Hubbs drove Ford Mustang. Will never be the same.
• Had first dinner party--for 11 guests. Eschewed baby steps.
• The Bridges go legal. California meets Kansas.
• Travelled to Greece, US (twice for wifey), Tenby and Paris.

Retrospection complete, I turned to my third favourite thing to do on trains. A fuzzy wine-fueled nap--the best kind, I tell you.

Here comes 2009. Let's look sharp, shall we?

For Findingmoxie, the Bell Tolls.

I went out after work with some colleagues--actually, my bosses and yes, that's how far I've come. I no longer mentally play the Imperial Death March when my boss approaches. Don't get me wrong, I still hear her approach and get that reflexive twinge of 'Look Busy!'. Anyway, going out for two drinks soon leads to communal bottles and someone topping up your glass without your knowing and leads to this:

Drunken ramblings on the bus home. I do remember the moment. The clock was lit with the aged yellow of history, the bus windows were open and it was 8pm. I remember hearing the bells for the first time and suddenly wondering how it was possible that I ride past Parliament and Big Ben ('Look kids, it's Parliment and Big Ben!!') twice a day, five days a week, for 14 months and have never heard the bell toll the hour.

Certainly begs the question, for whom the bell tolls? Clearly, it hasn't been for me. Although maybe that's the point. You never know when it tolls for you. Maybe it's been tolling this whole time and I couldn't hear it. Speaking of which, I really need to finish that book.

In that moment, living in London became slightly more concrete. I mean, it's hard to ignore the range of British accents, lilting up and down and dodging consonants, and the absence of my nearest and dearest (except for hubbs). Nothing emphasizes disassociation from everything you used to know more than an 8 hour time difference. I no longer react to my life with my community of peers, but detachedly relate it at a time more suited to their sleep cycle and my own. Removed from my time and until I heard Big Ben tolling the hour, without any time. It was almost like Big Ben restored my gravity and ground me in London--19 months after I arrived.

It also brings to light (pun intended) another issue. Why does having a tipple or two too much stimulate my writing life? Why does the urge to put my thoughts down to paper always froth up when I won't be able to legibly record a damn thing? I speak of the many journal entries from my year in Leeds where journaling usually meant more spilled ink than anything else. I began to wonder if my preoccupations with daily life were stifling my froth? Perhaps the time I spend strategizing the next day's outfit, mentally prioritizing paperwork for tomorrow's to-do list, or dreaming of our next holiday isn't settling my chi. It's coating my chi, the white noise of living. Apparently, hooch sets my chi free, de-clutters my mind and releases the writing life.

Just have to figure out how to have both without becoming a lush and the sort of illegible genius no one can ever understand--including myself.

Complicated in Farsi

I remember first seeing Funny in Farsi at Cody's on Telegraph Street in Berkeley several years ago. I was just coming to realise that this whole ethnic thing didn't have to be such a bad thing. In fact, suddenly, it made me a richer, more interesting person. Non-ethnics and Other-ethnics wanted to know what I ate at home, what it sounded like when I talked to my parents and even how to pronounce my name correctly.

This was a drastic about-face from my early days in the American public school system where anything exotic was shunned, especially if it was green and didn't smell like peanut butter and jelly. Needless to say, I learned that lesson well. I assimilated and so did my parents. We took up Christmas, bought a Ford and spoke English to each other, even when no one else was around. It was only then, 20 years later, that I felt like I had lost something--a part of myself, of my parents, of my past that I would never really have again.

When I saw Funny in Farsi, prominently placed on the front table at Cody's, I felt an overwhelming mixture of kinship and sadness. This was my story and it had been told by someone else. I was both afraid and eager to read it. What would this book reveal to me about my own life? But, as a not so financially solvent student, the hardback seriously exceeded my modest means. (You should know that 5 years later, I'll buy another handbag before I shell out nearly thirty bucks for a hardback...patience is a virtue, kids. Wait for the paperback.)

Five years later, on my 29th birthday, I open a delicious looking Seychelles shoebox in breathless anticipation. Inside, I find an unbearably cute pair of sky high wedges with black canvas straps, accented with a little red bow at the toes and adorable polka dot lining. I squeal. Urged to look under the wedges, I found my own paperback copy of Funny in Farsi. A little less excited (I mean, come on, it's polka dot lined WEDGES!), I thanked my best friends, the Millers.

So I read it. I even saved it for a month--as you do with books you're sure you'll love and want to savour it, or is that just me? Anyway, on to the book. I really wanted to have an emotional resonance with this book, the way I had and still do with Lipstick Jihad. But, I just didn't fall into it and maybe that's because it's laid out as quick little vignettes that are more amusing than poignant. It's not that my experience growing up Iranian in America wasn't funny and endearing and precious for having laughed through it with my family. But much of it--the public part anyway--was tinged with awkwardness and loneliness.

And maybe that's how I feel about belonging to a people who are exiled from a country that no longer or maybe never really existed. You can make it humorous, tell your friends how your dad goes by Fred "like Fred Flinstone" and loves shopping at Ralphs everday, having made friends with the butchers and bakers. Or how about the time my best friend in elementary school wanted to know how to get rid of leg hair without shaving and I told her that I had seen my mother use honey to do it? (This is before leg waxing became mainstream and when it was only done by stocky little Persian women in back storage rooms of Persian-run beauty salons). I am happy to report that honey apparently works as well as proper Persian wax. But, my relationship with my lost heritage and growing up in a country that I've come to love very much is much more complex than that and it goes too deep in my self to only laugh at it.

I guess I'll have to keep looking for the answers. Maybe it's unfair to expect a memoir to give that to me. Maybe I need to go to the mountain. That's right, Mohammed's mountain. The homeland itself. Now, how to convince the hubby that we will make it back with all our civil liberties intact?

Finally Off My Nightstand!

A long English Easter weekend, a ferocious cold snap and a last minute head cold meant I could uninterruptedly (as uninterrupted as one can be when living with a man) plow through the Karleen Koen novel Through a Glass Darkly, which has been lounging fatly on my nightstand for the better part of two months. To be fair to Ms. Koen, her novel was preempted by a reading list that harkened from before Christmas (my weakness being 3 for 2 offers at bookstores and P's weakness being trolling all bookstores within a ten mile radius on weekends). I have to be honest though. Eyeing that book on my nightstand every morning as I got ready for work, I realised it requires some chutzpah to take on a book that weighs more than a yorkie terrier and is infinitely more difficult to drag around. That's right. It's a wrist sprainer. The kind of novel you cannot casually carry in your handbag, cannot read lying down for the strain, and cannot drop into for a minute or two between tasks. And I didn't have that kind of chutzpah to face my morning commute with 700 pages of angst and half of London (you better believe it).

Circumstances, being what they were, did eventually conspire to bring the novel and the reader together. And this reader found herself trapped somewhere in the 400th of angsty pages wondering how she got there and where would it all end? Relatively well-written (though a bit stilted and a firm believer of symbolic repetition in the school of the dead horse), rich with historic detail, engrossingly fleshed out characters and a narrative that nimbly leapt from one character to another without jarring. But something happens to all that poise and promise and suddenly, the last half is like a modern day tale of Job. Yeah. Super fun. Though, I guess in keeping with Easter weekend--the origins, not the chocolate.

Everytime P came in from the gym or working late or from another room, I had another death to report. It was as if Karleen Koen wanted to single-handedly reinforce belief in the high mortality rate of the early 18th century with smallpox, consumption, suicide, heart attacks, duels. And while it initially did feed into the development of the characters, it quickly became this hysterical sob-fest--much like morbidly reading the papers for other people's tragedies and natural disasters. Weeping, wailing, tearing hair (theirs) and after a few sniffles (mine), I heard myself muttering, 'Oh, come in! Another burial?!' Plot device number 23: DEATH and Plot device number 24: HOW CHARACTERS DEAL WITH SAID DEATH.

Karleen--can I call you Karleen?--what's going on? Why?! Are we meant to have everything that we love taken away from us, just to know that we can be strong and that we'll always have Grandmama and faith? Cause, um, I got that when Angel asked an unarmed and defeated Buffy what she had left as he stood over her with a sword and she answered: me. Before puting the whale on him, girrl power style! [*By the way, she clearly didn't need Xander telling her about Willow's attempt to lift the curse--buying time for the spell would have been diasastrous! Yeah, I went on the record.]

Naturally, the ending left me bemused. I wasn't sure if I was coming or going, what I should be feeling and if I really should have sneakily had that second KitKat while P was at the gym--and whether I would confess when he got home? I gave it some thought and besides the old chestnut that 'life is short', I choose to take away one of its central repetitions:

'Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.'

Proverbs 4:23.

It's good advice from Grandmama Tamworth back in 1715 and it still holds resonance today. Actually, I do wish Grandmama Tamworth was my grandmother. The old girl knew how to keep it real and didn't suffer fools gladly--which is exactly how I want to be when I grow up! P also didn't seem to judge me for the second KitKat, which I guess is what Easter is all about--chocolate and that whole Jesus vibe of loving compassionately!

It was Saturday night. Somewhere, young people were combing their hair and putting on their best shoes, heading out to the bright lights of anywhere.

Here's what we did instead.

Curry: £10

Gin: £12

Tonic: £2

Giving drunken tours of our flat: priceless!

The Lounge and Curry

La Cocina Vida

If you take one thing away from this post, it's that digital cams are fun. As is gin. Not so much Sunday morning though. Obviously.

Goodbye 27....ye shall be missed.

27 years and 362 days. I think.

Freakishly corresponding with my first day of employment is my birthday and the last hurrah of my 27th year. I know many of you had to hear about the angst of turning 27. That fabled year of adulthood. As this new adult, I was going to drink wine out of wine glasses with no exceptions, have cocktail parties, matching undergarments, splurge on lovely sheets, always carry my handbag with me to the ladies room, and live less like a student generally. Well, I'm proud to say that most of that came to pass. I have a gorgeous gold duvet that I absolutely heart. Just last week, when we were down to our last unbroken wine glass, I refused point-blank to drink red wine out of lowball glass (for all your 12 year olds out there, yes, that's what it's called, I looked it up!). I even stood firm when someone resorted to calling me 'boughie'--which if you know me, you know that I aspire to the boho life. But still, I would not drink from his cup. I had one cocktail party (loose term) which ended in the RA showing up (geez, what other 27 year old could say that!?)...not my finest hour, but I was a charming hostess re-filling chip bowls and grinding frozen strawberries for delicious daiquiris. I now have a dishwasher and a fancy set of cutting knives (what's his is mine, right?) and find that my life is pretty far from my student qualms. So, all in all, 27 was a lovely year with amazing peeps and hijinks and one of those numbers that just feels so cool to say. Turns out I don't care for even numbers very much. HELLO 28!

P.S. I may spend the weekend coming up with the meaning of 28 for my life. I am sure many of you wait with bated breath.

My Last Day of Unemployment

So, today is my last day of freedom before I start my new job at Kings College London as an Event Coordinator in their Conference and Vacation Bureau. And last night I was getting giddy thinking of all the things I could do to encapsulate freedom, laziness and summer into one delightful day of no responsibility. About 4 am, I am woken up to the sound of steady rain. Curses! This morning, Paul eats his cereal and watches the news and comes upstairs to tell me that we're expecting rainfall all day. Double curses! Looks like I get 1 out of 3 of my delightful day. Laziness. And while I'm enjoying this, having a late cup of tea, reading up on the Harry Potter parties (trying to make an informed decision on which to attend), and painting my eyes as black as they will go (an homage to my wizarded friend and his world), I notice a leak in the hall. A long strip of leak. Thrice with the curses! After speaking to the rental agency man who incidentally referred to Iranians, Iraqis and the Portugese as Mesopotamia peoples, being advised to use 'primitive' methods (i.e., lay down pots) and learning that in England, roof shingles are piles, I finally have a chance to finish my cup of tea. And it's cold. Not enough curses! Accio a new day! Or magic me some chocolate and beloved friends...

P.S. If you were queasy at the Blair Witch Project, maybe you should skip my hand-held camera technique!

I am a nerd, ask me how:

The Book of Lost Things-John Connolly
Just finished this book! It was fascinating, although sometimes the 'morals' became a bit too anvil-shaped. But a wonderfully imaginative book that reminds you how much you have always loved stories...although, be forewarned, the book is not as thick as you think! The last 100 pages are 'Notes'--which sounds like a good thing, but actually made me miss out on the impact of the book's climactic scene, thinking there was WAY more story to go! If you're a nerd like me, you'll know what I'm talking about!
Passion-Jude Morgan
Have only read the first couple pages and I'm already excited. It's a book written by a man about strong, passionate women that seems really empathetic and real--rather than clueless and condescending! Already a treat. Anyway, sounds like a romance novel, but follows the lives of the women that inspired some of the most well-known Romantic poets, Shelley, Byron, etc. Can't wait til it gets juicy.
French Lieutenant's Woman-John Fowles
Yes, I've never gotten around to reading this classic. But here I am, my 27th year sighing its last and reading this pseudo-Victorian book. Anyway, it's hinted at a lot of heated tragic business, but not just there yet. Again, enjoying the way women are fleshed out.
My Dirty Little Book of Stolen Time-Liz Jensen
Okay. By far the most entertaining book I have read in a while. And by entertaining, I mean lively, conversational and clever! The heroine is just too much and you love her to bits. Might be too much for those of us who like our books to be mildly stimulating. (p.s. Aimos, you need to read it!)
The God of Small Things-Arundhati Roy
Just read the first paragraph. Syntactically, a thing of beauty all throughout. Warning though, this will haunt you. Gorgeous but haunting.

London in July

So we've all heard of monsoon season and even the valley has had the occasional summer thunderstorm. However. Pause. [Setting the scene] This last Tuesday, July 3rd, I am on the phone with a bakery in Los Angeles discussing square tiered versus round tiered. It's about 5pm London time and while on the phone, I'm standing by the window just watching that giant black cloud on the horizon. Anyway, just as I'm about to tell the woman on the phone my unique position of ordering wedding cake from 5000 miles away, the sky lets loose this fat burst of thunder, like a cosmic whoopee cushion. There's a moment of embarassed silence on the line. I finally say, sorry about that, we're having a thunderstorm. Obviously, she blurts out, 'Where are you?!' Where am I, indeed. The wilds of Fulham where this mad maelstorm explodes over our heads and besides flashes of lighting that are soooo clear you can count the zigs before they zag, nickel-sized clumps of hail start pelting the windows. I'm running around closing windows and marvelling at the fury of it all. Marvel turns into awestruck as it continues for longer than a few minutes (we're used to short bursts of weather this pond-side) which in turn, becomes fear. I am dialing my old man's office line and for effect, I open the window and have to shout over the storm, leaving an atmospheric (bah dah bum) message on his voicemail. Me, hysteria, and the elements! He calls back and totally doesn't belive me. Thinks it's the Californian in me that's nervous of a widdle wheather. And so, like any self-respecting independent woman, I bust out the webcam and run from window to window, documenting the demented whims of the Fulham sky. Anyway, so here we go. Remember, this is July 3.

That's taken from our 'lounge' window and is Ryecroft Street. Look at the twee little cars! And the sheets of hail.

The garden behind our building (belongs to the ground floor flat..we're the attic flat)...even the resident pigeon had to flee.

From the hallway window, the Wandsworth Bridge Road....

My favorite, as two firetrucks go screaming and splashing by, as if at this damp point, anything could even spark to flame!

By the way, this is only after a 20 minute storm...look at the pretty mailbox and the

girl taking photos on the corner, in shorts!

And just to give you a thrill, double decker action to the deux...I think buses had to pull over

during the storm, because none came through during and yet after, backed up deckers.

Okay, daytime TV has officially turned against me.

With a vengeance no less.

Exhibit A: Showtime, in its less than infinite wisdom, is airing a monstrosity of crap. Offensive to women and literature afficionados everywhere. A 2003 remake of Pride & Prejudice that does not include Colin Firth, Richard Armitage, or Laurence Olivier and is literally set in the now of stupid house parties and retarded roommates. Naturally, I recoiled in horror.

Continued my channel surfing with muttered invectives against the world today--I mean, I'm unemployed and any jackanapes who can skim can remake classics, what is the world coming to?!

And I stumbled onto Exhibit B with no warning.

Ever had a childhood movie that qualified as your worst nightmare? For some, it's Poltergeist. For me, it's ORCA. And it's on TNT today! Now! I nearly shrieked when I saw the title and the foamy bloody water as the 'killer' whale attacked a shark. Luckily it was only the beginning and not before the whale went on a vendetta. To this day, I would never ever live in one of those houses on slats on the shore. No way, not even if it's living with Richard Armitage and he promises to wear a cravat every day.

I'm afraid to see what's behind door number three.

Birth of a Blog

So for months now I've been fiddling with this dream of a blog--uniting my friends across the world into some utopic (like Faulkner, I may have just conjugated my own word) global community and posting pretty pretty pictures of myself for all to see. And yet, always always putting it off, waiting for that special occasion. (Ask me how long I've had a bottle of FREE champagne in my fridge and you'll understand my yen for that mythic special occasion.) But the wait is finally over. You may ask, pray tell, why today of days?

Well, it all started with a smudgy laser printer, a couple of copies, the ineptitude of man and machine, and a question. How are we doing at FedEx/Kinkos? Well FEK (Irish for fuck--tres appropos), you suck the big donkey. And now the internet knows. So there. Actually, I had rehearsed a longer rant on the drive home but behold the restorative powers of a mocha mint frappucino. The inarticulate rage may have well been a symptom of low blood sugar. Yogurt for lunch just ain't right.

I realize this is hardly an auspicious beginning. It's still a beginning--where's that bubbly?